(Without causing an argument)

Let’s be honest… not everyone in the family is wildly excited when it comes time for photos.

Whether they’ve got camera shyness, concerns about looking awkward, or just don’t get why we need to document every season of life, I see it all the time. And personal disclaimer here: I promise I’m not judging. In fact, I’ve become somewhat of a partner-whisperer over the years. So here’s my tried-and-true advice for getting your other half on board, without turning it into a thing.

1. Tell them why it matters to you

Instead of focusing on outfits and logistics straight away, have a quick convo about why you want to do this. Maybe it’s been a huge year and you want to bottle it all up. Maybe you’re never in the photos. Maybe your babies are growing up at lightning speed and you want to remember this chaos just as it is. Or maybe you want to make life easier for yourself come Christmas time when you can just frame up a bunch of stunning photos and be done with it!

Whatever your why is - share it. It helps your partner understand that this isn’t just an Instagram moment; it’s for your family’s story.

2. Assure them it won’t be awkward (and mean it)

So many people picture photo sessions as stiff, awkward affairs full of forced smiles and fake laughs. Not here, friend. I don’t pose you like mannequins or tell you to say cheese.

Instead, you’ll be hanging out - playing with your kids, walking, cuddling, chatting, doing things you already do together. I’m just there to document the magic that’s already happening. I cannot tell you how many times the begrudging partner will turn to me after a session and say something along the lines of ‘That actually wasn’t bad’

And if someone is feeling nervous? That’s totally fine. I’ve got tricks up my sleeve, gentle direction, and probably a dad joke or two.

3. Let them dress in something they feel good in

Sure, you *might* want to gently steer them away from the novelty tee they got for Christmas in 2014. But the goal is for them to feel like *themselves* - just a slightly polished version. Think BBQ attire or something they’d wear to a casual dinner.
My prep guide will help with outfit coordination, but the main thing is: no itchy shirts, no tight jeans, nothing that makes them feel like they’re in a costume.

4. Promise snacks afterwards (I’m only half joking)

If you want to make this a positive experience from start to finish, plan something simple afterwards - coffee and croissants, a sunset fish and chips, a lazy brunch, a couple of drinks and dinner at the pub. Something lowkey and enjoyable, especially if the session’s early or involves wrangling kids.

It’s not a bribe. It’s a reward for showing up and being present and it also serves to make the outing not JUST about photos. The photos are just a small part of a lovely bit of time spent together.

5. Let me take it from here

Once the session begins, your job is done. No need to direct or manage. I’ll guide you both through it with gentle prompts and plenty of room for real moments to unfold.

You just show up, be yourselves, and let me capture the love, the chaos, and the connection. And in the end, even the most photo-hesitant partners tend to walk away saying, “That was actually fun.”

6. They don’t have to perform

Unless they’ve got a guitar… no but seriously we aren’t asking them to come and put on show. What we are asking is for them to put aside a couple of hours to just be present and connect with their family. Play the way you always play. Get the giggles out of the kids the way only their parents know how. I’ll be there to gently guide and prompt but the moments… they all yours! I’m just along to document them for you.

Final Thoughts

I get it - your partner might not be thrilled when you first mention booking a photo session. But with a little prep, a little perspective, and the right photographer (hi, it’s me 👋), they’ll not only survive it… they might even enjoy it. I’m not joking it happens!

And you? You’ll have images you’ll treasure for the rest of your life.